Now, lest you look at this all and say, "sheesh, go to counseling. I would say though that racial differences are NOT like religious differences, certainly not those between Mo and Nomo. Mormon children are advised, in their religion, to refrain from dating until they are at least 16 years of age. It is an act of faith. It has always been like this. Within a cultural group marriage is hard. Really, I'm interested in this too. As my husband learns about Mormonism I get to see it through his fresh eyes.
I have rediscovered what I love about the church but choose not to attend or participate. Learn more about the LDS Church. I still love my Heavenly Father and my Savior. I have to breathe. I would never ever choose a different path. They can't seem to deal with it, and shouldn't have to. Lots of really thorough replies. Consider also the evolving perspective of the potential husband. I noticed that in Asia they care much more about language skills than here. When we were dating he made it very clear to me that he had no desire to come back to church.
Married to a Surgeon as well. That is a hard truth. My two daughters have each chosen a man who is emotionally and physically available, thank goodness. What goes on in those sacred temples.
No one, except someone who has been Mormon can understand how deep the hooks are sunk into the Mormon psyche. Many, many lapsed Mormons catch the true vision of the gospel at some time in their lives and desire to repent and become observant again. That's all she thought about for 18 months, plus the months leading up to it, and winding down. For every lesson and sermon preached about loving everyone, there are one or two lessons on avoiding outsiders because they will destroy your eternity. Thank you so much for posting your thoughts. Love does a lot.