Is it fair for me to ask him to put more time and effort into our relationship. And you know what. Unless you have those same understandings, I'm sad to say the relationship is almost certainly doomed. Children thrive on clarity and consistency. Why Mormons are not sexist.
Don't let her try to bring in the missionaries to explain; remind her that she is an RM and knows all they do and probably much more. If you can't do that, realizing that your partner may never come around to your side of things, you are not ready to marry this person. Things have been mostly good, but there are always challenges to deal with. Another simple and doable option is to go online; there are many LDS dating sites where you can sign up and meet new and interesting people. This is crunch time and years worth of effort are on the line for him.
Never seen it happen. What a fascinating response as always. It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna break her heart, but much less so than waiting until you've both committed to each other and start discussing your future together. It's tough to date a med student let alone a resident. Becoming a doctor is hard. These are things your wife may consider matter-of-fact and you may be surprised by if you don't discuss them now. I mean, I get where it comes from but it's so ridiculous. If she can accept me for who I am and what I believe, knowing that I'll never give her the eternal family she wants, then maybe we'll be ok.
I am 27, LDS, and 5 days away from marrying my own amazing non-Mormon man. But we'd like to have children soon, so I'm looking forward to reading through the archives of your blog to see how you've made it work. She has to decide for herself what she believes, but you can definitely help expose her to new ideas. If we do get married I may have to foot more of the bills. Single women who are educated, regardless of religion, are also going to find similar gender imbalances among their educated peers nowadays.