If kids ever came into the picture though, I wouldn't want to be isolated from them psychologically or banned from walking my daughter down the aisle someday. This brings me to the thorniest bit: If your wife is Mormon, your kids will be expected to be Mormon. If you end up marrying a true believing Mormon, your marriage will be a threesome. She's likely openly telling her family that it's okay he's not Mormon because she's going to get him baptized. Too many disappointments, sick nights without your husbands, his absence during family gatherings, my usual OBGYN checkup without him, even simple things of hugging and spending quality time is always remote. It is exactly what I needed.
Good communication, love, support and understanding are the things you should consider. Take issues as they arise, rather than throwing away what could be a good experience for you and her based off of what might happen. I wouldn't just start bringing up the ces letter and the problems in it. And that fairly constant theme has some deep implications your girlfriend will have to face. I had a business, 3 engineering degrees, numerous patents, and was working countless hours a week to try and keep a roof over our heads, make sure she was fed, the house was clean, bills were paid, etc. I'm busier than many people my age, but not as much as he is. We can talk about everything, but I don't want him to feel as if he is under the microscope.
I really like this girl but, is Mormonism so toxic that I should just sever the relationship before it gets serious. But of course this does not mean that mixed religion children cannot grow up to be LDS stalwarts. We'll have to discuss that, now that I actually know some things about some things. I tell her there's no pressure and we'll just see how things play out. And he likes the idea of us raising our daughter with the values the Mormon church instills on their youth. Its always been I who is being tested for patience,loyalty and trusting and trying to adjust with his unpredictable time schedule. I try to visit for a couple hours here and there. And their feelings about your marriage are their businessвnot yours. I don't mind long hour days but not having a companion during weekends.
All you have to do is be honest about your username here and you'll never see her again. No one, except someone who has been Mormon can understand how deep the hooks are sunk into the Mormon psyche. I envy all you lonely doctor wives. I know you got a zillion replies, and I have not read them. You know what the official line of the church is, and what bishops and stake presidents are likely to say. Anything she learned about mormonsim, she wanted to learn on her own.