It's a tricky business, but oh so worth it for the one you love. If she is as real deal as you say she is, she believes this also. I say to you, decisions determine destiny. He can relate to me and we can relate to each other which makes us strong to begin with.
I don't know how to manage the resentment. That is a hard truth. He has changed a lot throughout this process, but I don't know what he will be like once we are finished. The first vision is something she taught endlessly as a missionary - same with the Book of Mormon translation.
Am I a homewrecker. Or maybe he's like me and would rather just collapse into bed with you when he gets home. I'm glad you both have found a way to get past the incredible forces that are working against you. Today, at my ward sacrament meeting, in the back section of the chapel where I was sitting, all the women except one were Mormon wives in interfaith families. Their son grew up to become a temple president. The submariner's wives are in a similar situation. If you do believe it fully, are you not really going to want him to make the conversion ultimately. And even longer when you add that one-year fellowship to the end of it.
Communicate and get those answers, OP. When my nephews started looking at porn on computers everybody blamed me when it wasn't me. I have had more than one girl, who I had definite chemsitry with, who the girl really liked me and we had deep and intense conversations as well as a real physichal connection to. Now that I am married, it has become more apparent that his previous comments about not minding if his wife has a career, were not entirely accurate. I also remember my father a stake president telling me the night before I got married that every single couple he had counseled through marriage struggles were not reading their scriptures or praying together every night. I have been married to an anesthesiologist for 15 years his 2nd marriage. I don't know any other doctor's wives. I keep the positive thought that it will get better. He was the best decision I have ever made in my life, hands down.