If I'm focused on something like reading a textbook, or working on some problem then I might still think of him vaguely but I'm not going to whip out my phone or go and see himI'm busy. Never marry someone with the goal of a post-marriage conversion. Have any of you wives found the same thing. It's not fair to put words in her mouth and thoughts in her brain like this. But i too am afraid to endure this.
Take your date to a club with loud music and an open bar, or an R-rated or violent movie, and the prospects of it going well are daunting. Religious differences, however are real. I appreciate all the replies explaining the extent of the aggravation and pain I likely will face.
Glad I found this post. It MAY be true that she will be miserable with him and make him miserable with her. Forget what anyone else says or expects of you. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable. When you mix cultural groups you increase the difficulty. Adding an interfaith element means you have many more adjustments to make. But the idea of marrying my husband felt right from almost the get-go and, my patriarchal blessing made so much more sense. I'd just like to add that unless you're happy being with her as a full believing Mormon, don't stick around in the hopes that she'll de-convert.
It's a heart-wrenching story. If she says that the mission was the greatest experience and best two years of her life, any chance you have at a normal long-term healthy relationship is dim unless you convert. It's like talking to a wall. Cool Nicknames for Guys. Women do not get to hold the priesthood and function in an equal role with men. Work on myself, not him. I know the majority of them are great, but there are so many who are like vultures and will latch on to any male doctor like he is theirs. I completely agree, but I think the critical part is that he needs to talk to her.