It is not the norm. While the Church allows dating at 16, it discourages serious relationships until you both are older and considering marriage. By exactly how much ESPN gets watched in the course of a man-day. I recommend that talk.
Life is not perfect. I guess I was just hoping there was way for it to work. What is it like to become a doctor in your country. Also, I'm not involved with a doctor but I am an RN and spend quite a bit of time with them. I've found it extremely difficult particularly as he does not know how to communicate. Certainly there are such people in the church, but there are such people in any organization, and I would challenge you to remember that the members are also individuals with thoughts, feelings and the ability to rebel in their own ways. She probably doesn't even realize how crazy that is. Even though we live together, we barely see each other - when he is working nights, we go several days without seeing each other at all he is usually still at work when I head out in the morning, and gone by the time I get back in the evenings. Don't get her hopes up too much - in return ask her to do something to research your views. I still struggle with the silence in contact or wanting to "rescue" him from the harried schedule.
It's the 1 issue in our relationship. It broke my shelf, we left as an entire family, and our marriage is better than ever. I wish you the best. Just let things keep going. Having said this, there are several aspects of this particular religion that you need to be aware of as these will greatly affect how she will approach you and the relationship as a whole. I've supported him for 5 years, taken on that Doctor's Partner role, put my ambitions on the back burner, and it hasn't done a lick of good.
Being married and raising a family can be very difficult if the two of you disagree about important issues like religion. It is so hard, so sad and so lonely. Accept yourself, and feel God accepting you, and everything else will follow. My current atheism bothers him a little but as long as we respect each other it's fine. This makes them overwhelmingly successful wives and mothers. Our relationship is not perfect, not easy, but absolutely amazing. I was in your same position years ago. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc.