I too feel that I am becoming a mistress to his own career. He does not place the marriage above it. I love him more than life, He says the hours will get better after residency I really hope so. Don't spend money on somebody else' Wife. If my mother needed her surgeon's attention, I wouldn't want him to be thinking about his wife's lamenting that he's never home, not romantic, etc. In her letter to herself as a young doctor, Dr. Be open-minded; accept that different people have different beliefs, and that they do not always have to match with yours.
Being a doctor means you sacrifice for others, and your family and spouse sacrifices while standing in the shadows of your career. Also, I'm not involved with a doctor but I am an RN and spend quite a bit of time with them. She started crying when I explained this to her.
These insane hours are wearing on me and I fear what has happened to so many I know will start to happen to us. I think the LDS have been vastly over-simplifying that doctrine. They therefore have a high standard to work toward. But what I discovered surprised me. Mormonism is not meant to be a casual part of a Mormon's life but it is meant to be the center. My family says I should leave him…. There will, in fact, still be churches besides our own.
Jack is right about the demographics. After about 3 months of his occasional interjecting of facts See that 14 year old girl. If I just kind of take things as they come, everyone is happier. I am trying to figure out how to go on in life and discover myself again. I simply do NOT believe he and I will not be together after we die. Seek advice, and like the chick said, talk and talk and talk untill its all sorted out in your mind, and in his.