And the longer you see her you won't be getting out of anything soon either. I disagree with the doctrines and practices of the LDS church. I guess if u believe an angel with a sword really did force Joseph Smith to marry those girls. I married a NOMO after a lengthy temple marriage and divorce. So I feel a little frightened after reading this blog. Unfortunately, this has led to a culture of Mormon girls who are absolutely obsessed with Disney and even as adults dream of being Disney princesses. If we have children, they will be OK to go to your church, but not compelled to do so, and never baptized. First of all, Mormons are people so there is a spectrum of what they actually believe on a personal level, and what beliefs are most important to them. Everyone seems to think that I'm lucky to marry a doctor.
If you are all sealed together, you will be together forever in the Celestial Kingdom. Make sure she knows the plan, so you both can dress appropriately. How do you handle the ocd behavior. Yes, do sever the relationship. These same principles have helped build strong, successful religious communities for thousands of years. A shitty sex life, potentially. My wife expects me to understand her situation but whiles I am willing to understand, I wish she would make some effort to etch out some quality time for us when she is not stressed out and grumpy and irritable.
I also definitely don't want her raising my future children, though, and I'll be very clear about that. You will be surrounded by single women, many of whom are probably interested in dating and marrying a Mormon, so take advantage. In any case; I can assure you from your post that he doesn't sound like he's being selfish; the behavior does sound like its residency related and not selfishness related. My current atheism bothers him a little but as long as we respect each other it's fine. If she can accept me for who I am and what I believe, knowing that I'll never give her the eternal family she wants, then maybe we'll be ok.
With minimal support on my side and going against everything I had grown up learning, I had to trust my relationship with God. As for conversion, she just spent every waking second thinking about converting people. It sounds like you HAVE done your best in the past. Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages. I guess I was just hoping there was way for it to work. If you aren't sealed together, say good-bye for eternity. Best wishes in whatever you decide. She might want to follow the 'virgin until marriage' part, or she may personally decide to forego following that in secret. Men search the world for women that they can stand to be around with long-term.