Mormons think when you die, based on if you were a good person cough cough atheists you go to spirit "paradise" where they will teach you the gospel. She cried when you proclaimed your love of goodness because, in part, it was a sign that you weren't broken and desperate for Mormonism. I got married last year, left a great job, family, friends and city to be with my husband in a very small under developed town.
Girls aren't socially required to be missionaries, unlike men. If they are, run to the altar, in or out of the temple. Maybe it won't be a big deal. I have felt alone many a days when raising our 2 children while he was at work or out of town for conferences. What upsets me most is that he didn't realize it was my birthday, or a big one and then that his reaction was to get defensive about his plans rather than offer an alternative for celebrating with me. There are billions of other girls out there who I wouldn't have issues like this with. As a matter of fact, you can begin here. For example, the irish, polish and the italians basically intermarried. She cried when you proclaimed your love of goodness because, in part, it was a sign that you weren't broken and desperate for Mormonism. I just found this blog.
Be thankful that you chose a man with passion and drive; realizing that his energies will not always focused on you. But she probably is more in love with the idea of you, than with you. Sadly, the general consensus of "convert or nope out" sounds like what will end up happening. I believe in temple marriage, and in the importance of those covenants.
I've been searching around for advice, and this blog page is probably the most informative on the topic of dating a doctor as I've been able to find anywhere. Twitter did not respond. Do you want to be married in the temple. I would probably suggest that you cut your losses now. Another simple and doable option is to go online; there are many LDS dating sites where you can sign up and meet new and interesting people. BYU was once the perfect place to find a great young woman and get married. As such, it tends to attract the young and insecure. You got some good advice from the other posters on how to maintain contact. So it is going to be over anyway.