Although, I also would question the fact that you're doing all the contacting I just do not text anyone that often or call people. Anything she learned about mormonsim, she wanted to learn on her own. She has opened my eyes to many parts of our national culture that are not in harmony with righteousness. Reading has become difficult, because I have trouble focusing. Honestly, it isn't her fault. You should ask Him what you should do, as no one else can see the end from the beginning and no one else has perfect love for you and for your potential husband.
This is because they gave up the structure of what made them desirable in the first place. They even refrain from tea and coffee. She probably has not studied the real truths behind Mormonism and thinks her beliefs are the only way to become a God while living eternally with family in the life hereafter. She honestly believes that she has the truth, and that if you are exposed to it enough you will recognize that.
Where does that leave me. But, you will probably lose. My kids are now 14, 12 and When they were younger it was so hard to be alone and take care of them. I think you are all lucky to have such successful husbands, and I think in any marriage it is important to keep your own identity especially when you have children.
We have almost daily prayers, scripture reading, and lengthy discussions about our beliefs. A grandpa sense of humor and occasional clever line from an old movie go a long way. One thing that has helped my husband and I was a marriage class we joke that it was more like marriage therapy when we had only been married two years.