I can honestly say it has been the worst decision of my life. Anyway, before you marry you should work out anything hypothetical that might come up in the future. My mom was a single mother with a lower than average income working full time so she understood that aspect. There is no way she will may you without you going to the temple. You aren't engaged or married or anything, you can't just know that she won't see the light and remain crazy Mormon forever. I came across your blog on a google search and I really enjoyed what you wrote. No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature. It seems like a minor point, but I have noticed that every Mormon girl who disobeys the Mormon direction to avoid coffee has something majorly wrong with her. Although there are no strict rules as to who should do the asking, the Mormons are very conservative and in general, they expect guys to do the asking. It had nothing to do with our relationship and so much to do with the pressures and demands of his work.
He want to wait at least one year before he makes any decision he want to take it slow. I've had a super hard time finding folks who understand what I am feeling I have been married to an orthopedic surgeon for 35 years. Life will chuck all sorts of bouncers at you.
Try a variety of dates. But, if ever were there were a time to be overly cautious it's with this topic. Men and women must be willing to accept what they know to be true. Like it was mentioned above, see how she deals some of the issues now and if she can't handle it, it might be better to find someone else. How church discipline works. Even Mormon girls who marry non-Mormons want great dads for their kids, and they are oriented to having kids, sometimes many kids. Nothing beats a face to face talk. The essay on race and the priesthood claims that Brigham Young prophesied that blacks would receive the priesthood someday, but if you actually follow the link in the footnotes you will see that he was misquoted. I found that it worked just as well.
I have no idea if he stayed. Did he ever buy me anything other than a coffee or a dinner. Anyways, any advice on which of those times would be best since I know both have to be a sacrifice for him of some sort. He then proceeded to beat the shit out of her for a decade.