The important thing is that you are getting to know one another, not that you are always doing fancy things. Days later he simply said, "What do you want to do for your birthday. I don't think I could let that happen. I am thinking about him pretty much all the time. But you will benefit if you can help him maintain his strength. And he is reading one of my favorite Buddhist-based books, in an effort to understand my beliefs. If he says he wants to keep things casual, head for the hills - he's the latter and he doesn't appreciate you.
Tough to say what will impact your girl most - but there's your best LDS. Sometimes it's easy to forget all the wonderful times we had together before he got into med school. Life is too short. Other guys I've dated in a similar situation have just asked me to put the keys in the mailbox when I leave though. Now, they are limited to only 80 hours per week. The scriptures say that one of the main reasons good people don't join the church is because they just haven't been introduced to it. It time with him I value most. Anyway, i know that this is not the experience of every surgical marriage but i guarantee most of them can relate in some way or another. This is not about either of you individually.
It will be up to you, her man, to support the positive expectations. They're hidden pretty deep on LDS. We had a long distant relationship for 3 years. If you and she are sealed in a Mormon temple, your children will be can be sealed to you. Good luck with her, and good life to you. It will poison your marriage until the end в of your life, your marriage, or your belief. You'll know pretty quick where she stands. We have to show them we care. It's not that she doesn't believe you right now, but it is a bone she will never drop.
That is the shit storm on the road ahead of you. While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. If he's in year 1 of the residency, he's got probably years left finishing residency then fellowship. How convenient for him. That list is comprised of his parents including his dad's affair which led to a son, his aunts and cousins in Europe his sister and her husband who are handicapped and whoever comes his way asking for a handout. She will try to convert you. I am a career military man's wife. I wish you the best.