What can you expect. It's not that she doesn't believe you right now, but it is a bone she will never drop. Also, don't forget, some people just arent very good at conveying emotions. I have been married to a doctor for 25 years. Go on dates on days other than Sunday. She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc. I just graduated college and my boyfriend has one more year. So that's something I can't say is good or bad. It has to do with their character. I made a conscious decision to marry outside the church for my own reasons.
I find myself oscillating between empathy, pity, and rage, but lately, it's been mostly rage. That's all we're really saying. I am active in church, I take my kids regularly, and I have callings. How convenient for him. But I ultimately leave it to him most times. Some day he hopes to make it to Romania and settle down.
How will your spouse feel about that in 20 years. I've read through some stuff there and it all seems pretty tame so far. Mormons are very strict about avoiding sex outside of marriage. I'd rather marry a rich doctor and let him have his affair s on the side just so long as I don't have to work anymore. You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. I get sweet texts some morning when he is on his way to the office and that's all it takes the rest of my day is amazing. I'd like to reiterate, though, that sheer physical exhaustion isn't as much of a problem for me as it might be for a med student or a doctor, so he might be deserving of the benefit of doubt if he doesn't keep in touch regularly. If I catch you in the back seat trying to pick her locks, I'm going to send you back to mother in a card board box. I can honestly say it has been the worst decision of my life. Till then, I know I should be more patient and understanding than any ordinary wife is.
I remember one time I did just that with a group of friends and someone saying, "Oh you have it so rough. I just found your blog. I simply do NOT believe he and I will not be together after we die. And though most people think I'm the difficult one in the relationship they don't realize he is of stronger opinions he just let's me take the heat from outsiders. The woman's role is to grow up, marry a worthy priesthood holder, and have a lot of kids. Plan on rolling your eyes A LOT at family get torturers together. To just see ourselves as support to our husband's "noble" ambitions.