You'll be richly rewarded. Mormon theology is pretty clear: But Mormon theology is also rich with opportunities for second chances. I get to spend my life with someone who was not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender roles. Discover the joys of a non-sexual relationship and find sincere ways to show affection without sex. The rest of it is all just the normal course of events for someone in this situation, but this isn't a good sign: If he were thinking about you, he'd contact you when he does have the rare free minute or two. Again, I deeply love my dad, but these were things that I had to deal with. If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them. There is no question this is the true church.
If so, then step away from the internet and go look him in the eyes and take his hands and start asking him all the questions you asked me. Honestly I'd let things keep going. Finally, it is a very tight-knit community and despite efforts to insulate you from conversion-minded missionaries, you will be exposed to a lot of people that think, like this woman does, that atheists are without a moral compass. Fist year wasn't easy as he didn't match, I moved across the states and our honeymoon consisted of moving. Be open and talk about your ideals. We DO live paycheck to paycheck. We will see what life has in stock for me and this brilliant cardiologist.
I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. I would leave him note reminding him how important his work was. There is a difference between commitment and time together. I am hopeful and do feel some healing.
If you are only after non-serious dates and spend a great time, you should be fine with this set up. If you are dating a Mormon girl, then always wear a good shirt, jeans or pants, and avoid T-shirts with offensive wording or graphics. I'm pointing this out because I don't know her and couldn't tell you what to expect. And of course, everyone has a different experience. I could draw some flip-art of a kiss on some post-it notes and send one a day.