This makes me so sad. A straight-laced, returned sister missionary, raised in the cult, and in family of similarly entrenched cult members, will not likely remain happy with a non-member. If she can see that YOU are what is important in the relationship, not what you or she believes, ya'll have a chance. We're giving it to you straight because we hope to help you avoid the heartache many of us have experience due to the harmful teachings of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Before I proposed, I actually broke up with my partner for a month в mostly due to family pressure. Would she be okay with having a home that is split religiously. After our first kiss she lets me know she won't have sex with me because she's mormon and we'd need to be married first. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture.
Love is what we do, not what we feel. Maybe there is wisdom behind some of the peculiarities. Otherwise you risk having an awkward mix between dating and hanging out, which can be uncomfortable for those involved. For me this has been an opportunity to increase my love, tolerance, compassion and acceptance. If things get even more serious, try getting her to sign a pre-nup that neither she, nor her family will try to convert you. I knew a couple in my last ward who got married in their mid 20's. Let me say this so you can get an idea of just how crazy and how much your girl friend is into the Mormon religion: These are known as "garments". But this phase isn't going to be short. No beliefs are protected from challenge, the rules of evidence, or derision.
After a certain point "support" stops being supportive and turns into enabling - enabling of his depression, his anxiety, his reluctance to reflect deeply on who he is and what he wants out of life, and worst of all, my "support" ensures his continuation into a career that will not ultimately make him or me happy. To me, life is all about growthвso ask yourselfвwill I grow more staying single and focusing my life on the church, or will I grow more branching out, looking at life from different perspectives, and allowing myself to see options I have not yet considered. Marry a person based on his character, not his religion. It also means that you have to give her something particular to do. You need to repent and change. Thank you for pointing this out. She's a shell of her former self and it breaks by heart to this day. It is really hard and so good to see that I am not alone in this.
This includes both asking and offering assistance. Does He Like Me - Signs. What's hard for us, is he doesn't understand why I gladly accept extra hours and work and community service projects, which sometimes impinge on the little time we do have to spend together. That said, Mormons have learned to have fun without alcohol and often have to wait until drinkers are well-oiled and loosened up to join in the dopey-ness. Good Questions to Ask Someone. So how do we approach saving a relationship with someone who has unrealistic expectations of what a long-term relationship looks like.