It sucks but ultimately what Mormonism does to people is it makes them value adherence to church more than their relationships with people. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first. How do Mormons feel about contraception.
I'm so glad to have found this blog. Certainly there are such people in the church, but there are such people in any organization, and I would challenge you to remember that the members are also individuals with thoughts, feelings and the ability to rebel in their own ways. It is so frustrating emotionally and physically to be your faithful wife. That contributes to status in her culture. That deal with polygamy explained. My husband is in his last year of residency. My wife told me she does not want to know if the church is false, so I don't pressure her. Her goal is to make you mormon.
I am also going thru the same thing. There are such things as perfect loving families though. It's what I agnostic atheist exmo do with my girlfriend reasonable TBM. I often feel it's harder than being a single mom because the false hope is just torture. Signs of Male Attraction: Reading a Man's Body Language. Being independent is sexy to these men who endure grueling hours, tons of paperwork and politics AND operate. My 16 year old daughter told her Bishop who made that comment, that she thought her dad was great just the way he was. He was also a poor communicator and felt he didn't need to voice certain things, like 'I love you'.
I feel like now more than ever, I am expected to just not have an opinion about anything or even a say in how we spend our time together. I'm a nevermo, but I married a then TBM girl, so maybe my perspective will be of help to you. There have been times in my marriage where I have been frustrated and angry by his lack of change. The most important thing is an open dialogue, as you say, and utmost respect for the other person.