That's a really sad story. Before I would just take things as they came, internalize them, be miserable about it but not voice my concern in fear of being told that I can't handle his lifestyle. Now just ask yourself what are the odds of her thinking her way out that crazy nonsense. The important part of finding a partner to marry does not, in my opinion, revolve around whether or not you are of the same religion. By the way, I have had to get another job to help make ends meet. I have had more than one girl, who I had definite chemsitry with, who the girl really liked me and we had deep and intense conversations as well as a real physichal connection to. He isn't in school and doesn't have much idea about what it is like to be in my shoes. Thanks so much for all the time you've put into your replies.
Most of my female friends work and their husbands don't work weekends so it is hard to have people to hang with. Don't think your life is going to be all rainbows and great lifestyles. The intrusion into my life of an apparently irrational belief that was immune to my influence would have been felt more keenly every year. I still assume at times that my husband will recognize that I love him if I do his laundry and keep the house clean and care well for our children, etc. I decided to sort of play along because she was amazing and I didn't believe some of the things she was telling me she actually believed. I volunteer every week, I put others before myself, etc. He will have to be okay with being thought not good enough to help in circumstances in which you believe that priesthood power is needed. It sucks to admit, but I broke up with him after 6 months because I didn't think there was any point if we couldn't be together forever. I fully understand the fact that I need to do those things so I can accomplish my dream.
What are the strategies for not taking the absence personally I mentioned above that I'm cognizant of my SO's constraints, but it's definitely hard I have been married to an Interventional Radiologist 30 yrs. I also know that whenever exceptions are made, there are reasons. Would they have stayed in the church if dad was a member. It also means that you have to give her something particular to do. Unless you have those same understandings, I'm sad to say the relationship is almost certainly doomed. I have to day that I totally agree!. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you. I got married to a Mormon woman.
Would she be okay with never being married in the temple. And he likes the idea of us raising our daughter with the values the Mormon church instills on their youth. Patriarchal leadership is something that most women in the world valued until recently, but it is still a chief value with Mormons. Yes, do sever the relationship. And by joining I mean become just as fanatic in it as she is All her life she's been taught that she needs to be married in a Mormon temple Wife left when I came out If her family are all Traditional Believing Mormons, they will try to convert you. If you can't do that, realizing that your partner may never come around to your side of things, you are not ready to marry this person. My dear faithful LDS aunt married a good non-member man. Thank you, Liz, for your very kind words and encouragement. I am a happily married mono-faith guy who has no testimony of dusted base boards. The yard stick he uses to assess what is "normal" is so warped that he has lost touch with what a happy life could look like he often berates himself for feeling so miserable given how "easy" his schedule is at just 65 hours a week, not like surgery or some other 80 hour a week speciality.