Once she realizes you won't join and she can't get married in the temple, then I suspect everything will be over. I expected long hours and lots of call, which there are. Well, you know what you're not going to get into before marriage So fuck that relationship. And I resent being viewed as just the wife of a doctor rather than my own person with her own accomplishments and aspirations. I wanted that full support though I am certainly not saying that marrying a Mormon ensures that. Those will make her think. Due to their religious teachings, Mormons do not smoke, drink alcohol or caffeinated "hot drinks" coffee or tea or do drugs. If this is someone you are to marry, then the rest will take care of itself. This is my own personal opinion.
Most mormon girls look at guys like you as a project and that they have a lifetime to work on the project. Now Knowing your husband is surrounded by good looking women, makes you pray for them even harder. He is not willing to cut back on hours or ever get off of his career track. As Joanne mentioned, should you marry interfaith, you will have lots of help from fellow ward members on converting your spouse. I just found your blog. That is speaking from my own relationship. But I love him. Would I have changed the course of my life.
I don't know if I want to be a single mother of four kids. I'm going to disagree with what some of the people have said. His father died and he was not given one day off. But I was unusual in that I never really wanted to convert my husband I was worried I'd have to divorce him if he turned true Mormon and he didn't need me to believe way he does.
While that is the case sometimes, it Is much more of an exception than a rule. It's like watching somone lose themselves in an abusive relationship. My experience with non members has been so much more meaningful and caring. In the long run, being married to a nonmember has made me a better person. And no one has the right to judge you for your decision. But, if ever were there were a time to be overly cautious it's with this topic. She might not realize how important it is to compromise. I too wish I had researched more in depth the other doc's wives blogs out there - I would have come up with a much more clever blog title.