Sadly, my ward shuns us. I think in most situations its either you join or she leaves- either you, or the church. Maybe it was because I was so young when I made the choice, maybe it was because I was the oldest child in an extremely active family with parents that just expected me to be a shining example to the younger kids. She is probably thinking she can convert you if she is with you long enough and is a good enough example. He's now in his 3rd year of a 4 year residency program and is hoping to do a 2 year fellowship next. I don't remember much of the breakup because it's been overshadowed by what happened to her afterwards. In many ways, she was everything that I ever wanted in a spouse, but in other ways she was not what I ever expected. YOu ladies out there My soon to be fiance is a doctor, he'll be ending his internship in and maybe will do his postgraduate abroad. I've told her that but maybe she doesn't believe me.
Then you complain when the polish of being married to a doctor wears off and you grow callused to the money and big house. The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. Basically nothing like reality. I completely agree, but I think the critical part is that he needs to talk to her. Deep down I know he could pass on that stuff, but never the less it seems like a necessary inconvenience to attend these events. My relationship is the same way. We are here looking for the other people who live this life and understand how difficult and, at times, painful this career is with which to live since the majority of people think like you until they see our families in action. It won't be easy. This is crunch time and years worth of effort are on the line for him. Of course we are talking abt kids and marriage all the time.
I don't mean to be rude, but she's not gonna give up her "nonsense". So you stay calm, stay pleasant, and try not to let it eat you alive. She is a returned missionary, and won't Marry you if you want to stay atheist. I was the bishops' daughter who went to BYU but didn't go on a mission because I was already married with a 10 month old by my 21st birthday.
She seems to be ok with that, and wants to continue our relationship, and also talks about wanting marriage and children, and raising those children to be mormon like her even if I'm not religious. Tell her that you want your relationship with her, and her relationship with your children together to be separate from her religion with her god. Should either of you sisters raise your children and wonder what faith will they choose. I am a 47 yr old Mom of a 4 yr old child with special needs who is completely alone to care for my child a good part of the time.