If you like living on someone else's coat times, them by all means. Your opportunities may not. Even if the church believes a bunch of crazy nonsense, and she believes it too, I still really like her and would like to see whether we can have some good intellectual conversations about this stuff. I found that it worked just as well. What's hard for us, is he doesn't understand why I gladly accept extra hours and work and community service projects, which sometimes impinge on the little time we do have to spend together. That is a reality you can't change. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed. In my home ward, the non-member son of one of the members of the Bishopbric was able to stand up with the Priesthood and hold his baby girl while they gave her baby blessing.
And when he's working, you should be able to connect somehow. You need to do something interesting and keep her faith up. I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. I suppose it depends on your personality. Why Mormons are not sexist. The most important thing is an open dialogue, as you say, and utmost respect for the other person. I am happy and established successful comp. I do my best to keep busy during the day, school, cleaning, organizing, going to the gym and my daughter.
It's like talking to a wall. I grew up in a very strict Mormon home and dated only Mormon men until I met my now husband. I actually had one of my friends say to me, " why are you worried about what he is doing when you aren't there he spends hundreds of dollars on you when you are there who cares that he hasn't texted you". We had our first child about a year into the relationship. There is no way I can compete with a suicide!!.
And your future kids will be taught that you are the reason they don't have an "eternal" family. How do you really feel about that. We have a strong relationship, so I am lucky - but lately the demands of family are becoming a bit too much to handle - and I really don't know how to 'deal' with my inlaws and 'sharing' my husband with them. Do you drink alcohol. But I'm wondering about one thing: Do I have cause to be scared out of my mind, or should I just take a chill pill. Yes; I suppose if each of us believe the other is brainwashed, there's going to be major problems later on. But marriages don't last if you have to hold back ugly, sarcastic comments when your partner attends religious services or defends religious beliefs. It seems to me like you are walking into a relationship where there is a significant disconnect from the start. If she was anything like me, that idea is probably foreign, radical, confusing, interesting, and inspiring to her.