Also, I'm not involved with a doctor but I am an RN and spend quite a bit of time with them. Wow, every word resonates. I understand that, and accept that. But on saying that I do empathise with you all and a Doctor is very challenging and I know my Dad was always working and it is a demanding job for their spouses to live their lives but hey nothing at the top is ever easy. I also remember my father a stake president telling me the night before I got married that every single couple he had counseled through marriage struggles were not reading their scriptures or praying together every night. He isn't always around for holidays, birthdays, or anniversaries. So while I believe that, in fact, non-celestial families still can be together forever, I also think that there must be great merit to qualifying for the whole Enchiladaвwhich I perhaps cannot fully appreciate at this time. I know "Meet the Mormons" isn't what I'm looking for I went through a very similar experience earlier this year and the community was extremely helpful. If you are a believer and are willing to go, then well and good.
I say to you, decisions determine destiny. I also know that my husband's job as a Surgeon is before us my kids and I. RB Ruth Barb May I'm an active Mormon girl. And there are questions and lessons that dual-faith couples face that zero-faith or single-faith households do not. He want to wait at least one year before he makes any decision he want to take it slow. The intrusion into my life of an apparently irrational belief that was immune to my influence would have been felt more keenly every year. I grew up in Utah, attended BYU, and served a mission. Now if your faith is not so strong to begin with, this perhaps is no big deal.
It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna break her heart, but much less so than waiting until you've both committed to each other and start discussing your future together. That's probably true, and that would be a great thing for her, but they wouldn't see it that way. My dear faithful LDS aunt married a good non-member man. Two people can be as completely different as it is possible to be and respect each others' beliefs. Sadly, the general consensus of "convert or nope out" sounds like what will end up happening. Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages. There are a great many beliefs I can't condone but most of them are along the lines of gender stereotyping, and how you apply that to your own life obviously varies by individual. It may change your relationship to them forever.
To me, the core question is, is this person inclined toward self transcendence are the inclined, desirous, self aware enough to be selfless. So now I am here and I have made a go of it for a year, found a new job, made new friends, tried to grow to like a culture that is foreign to me. They want a man who has navigated the stormy seas of the world, who has just a little bit of history, and has overcome the degenerate worldly culture, a man who has discovered for himself where peace and happiness lie. And he is reading one of my favorite Buddhist-based books, in an effort to understand my beliefs. Are you going to keep the sabbath holy as a family, or is he going to take the kids out for pizza after church, leaving you home to observe alone. I am married to an ER doc. I kept thinking things would get better at some point, but they didn't. I can honestly say I wish he stayed were he was it has been a long road.