You will be surrounded by single women, many of whom are probably interested in dating and marrying a Mormon, so take advantage. I wish I could reach out to this girl and tell her not to pass up an awesome guy. I have been married to an er doctor for almost 19 years. I am literally too lazy to get up and get the computer. It seems to me like you are walking into a relationship where there is a significant disconnect from the start. I am not going to blame him for not putting effort into it, because he probably put as much effort into it as he could. Some day he hopes to make it to Romania and settle down. It won't be easy. Be open and talk about your ideals. I seriously questioned the future of our relationship based on that fact alone.
I seriously could have been the one to write most of that about my situation. You can't provide that for her so your marriage will be defective from the outset. We are talking about kids and I know it will all fall to me. This girl is also a real person, not a caricature of a cult member, and even if the ultimate result is a breakup, she deserves to be treated with compassion and respect. It has always been like this. How is that gonna work. Oh well, I'll just pretend she's not mormon and see what happens. I'll bring up some CES letter issues, let her know why I wouldn't want my children raised like this, and we'll see what happens. Also, we haven't practiced polygamy for over years. He will eventually have more time for you, but right now he is likely giving you all the time that he can, even though it is very little.
My husband has the benefit of having his cake and eating it too. I simply do NOT believe he and I will not be together after we die. She is in pretty deep and culture is a powerful force.
Her church is more important to her than you are ever will beplain and simple. I hope that makes sense. When mormon married a mormon and failed miserably.