Sorry if I gave that impression. This is such a misinformed statement. It kills me that we are now diminished to a mere statistic. Don't fall in love with a doctor. I was lucky with my TBM.
There is no way she will may you without you going to the temple. They seriously have movies about it. I have been on both sides of this situation, and I know how much it sucks to feel like you're doing everything you can to make it as easy and convenient as possible for the other person to spend time with you, but theyre still not seeing you all that much, and you think they should be able to give you a little more. And unless they are total cretins your ward members will love him too. That said, there are also a lot of pricks inside the church, who fully deserve membership. I can no longer spend more than 30 minutes in the sun. You must either really love blue balls, or else she is not a real deal Mormon girl.
That means that we are always changing and growing. You should take all of the above advice to heart and follow it just in case, so you can make a smooth transition should it ever be necessary. I work in a different industry and have worked away from home my fair share. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking. And right at that moment when I'm about to tell him this, and give him some kind of ultimatum, I hesitate. Bet as Joanna has said there are some things you should think carefully about в and this needs to be done with your head, not your heart. Thanks for sharing your story. Once she realizes you won't join and she can't get married in the temple, then I suspect everything will be over.
I am so happy I found this blog. We started dating 16 years ago, and both resigned from the church earlier this year. If this happens, it might click something in her mind that says that what she experienced was pleasurable and she would like to have it again. You should ask Him what you should do, as no one else can see the end from the beginning and no one else has perfect love for you and for your potential husband. There are such things as perfect loving families though. I can pray for and with my youngest daughter and bless her thru prayer. I know, I know, this is the last thing you want to hear.