And your needs essentially have to be silenced a lot of the times. There's a ton of crazy in what we were taught all our lives. I still struggle with the silence in contact or wanting to "rescue" him from the harried schedule. As time has gone by I realized that the opinons of others is not important to me and oddly enough those who did not originally approve have had their hearts and minds changed by the love my husband shows me, our daughter, and the members of my family. But, I am a 3rd year medical student and my fiance is a 2nd year medical student. You are expecting him to be like your exes and you want him to be the one to chase you. I had many, many friends who moved this quickly during courtship, too.
I am not going to blame him for not putting effort into it, because he probably put as much effort into it as he could. Toxic is the right word. This happened to me, and it took me forever to get out of the cult.
Someday she may really regret everything, and miss you like crazy. In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. I let things slide often not thinking it is worth a battle. On top of their day job, they also have to read volumes upon volumes of medical journals to keep up with their profession. How church discipline works.
Then you complain when the polish of being married to a doctor wears off and you grow callused to the money and big house. He doesn't like to complain or talk about work too much when we're together so it really helps to hear from another resident just how crazy it is. I've told her that but maybe she doesn't believe me. I would need to ask my husband again. I would have to say absolutely NOT!!!!.