I can see why people get a divorce when their kids get older. And no one has the right to judge you for your decision. The views expressed by individual users are the responsibility of those users and do not necessarily represent the position of the Church. He has cheated on me and promises he won't do it anymore. It's typical to not hear from him for weeks.
It's not a gender issue or money issue. But remember that it is also your wife's choice to obey or disobey, and that you have no authority over her as a person, either. I'm dating a lovely guy who is in his first year of medical residency. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first.
However, if you are a Catholic guy dating a Mormon girl, then remember that her parents may be averse to it. Her dad is a bishop Oh, I should clarify we're both in our late 20s and living independently from parents. You love a medical guy. This means no swearing, loud talking, or making offensive jokes. Once she realizes you won't join and she can't get married in the temple, then I suspect everything will be over. Men and women must be willing to accept what they know to be true. He is toning down his opinions and ocd ways a little, to be fair to him, I try to ignore the strong opinions, and him rearranging things. If my mother needed her surgeon's attention, I wouldn't want him to be thinking about his wife's lamenting that he's never home, not romantic, etc. The woman's role is to grow up, marry a worthy priesthood holder, and have a lot of kids.
If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them. If you can genuinely deconvert her then cool. Many men have begun leaving the Church in their early twenties as the mission has become more important.