Don't put them through that either. Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. Dont aggressively try to destroy her faith but bring up philosophical thinking points. Trust me, I too tried to make it work with my very Mormon also returned missionary ex-girlfriend.
Mormons are very strict about avoiding sex outside of marriage. Even if she does, you'll be the reason in her family's eyes. I am so in need of a support group. He came to bed at 1: I don't know if I can make this work. April 05, There are ways to avoid blue balls ya know. You all are strong for staying but I just don't see how it is possible long term to live like this.
But I am very lonely indeed, I have married to a doctor for 5 years, he has been struggling with his career change for years with achieving different fellowships and residency in different countries. But it is important to be ruthlessly honest with yourself about how you feel about it. The two of you can get married in the temple and live together forever for eternity. She may have served a mission as an ultimatum to herself. Given the fact that doctors, esp surgeons, have a very busy life in US, it seems logical. He want to wait at least one year before he makes any decision he want to take it slow. And her husband now is dead and she is left to wonder about their future. I am sooooo proud of him but his career has broken me in a way I don't know if I can piece back together.
Honestly, I have given up on lds men as a single 25 year old. I give input into our activities for dates, and this works out well since we're very compatible and like spending leisure time the same way. Not all of us are able to achieve that ideal but we are to strive for it. But I also know that He loves us so much that He would never take away our ability to choose for ourselves.