I say to you, decisions determine destiny. Do you truly believe in temple marriage as a requirement for Celestial attainment. Do not make anything risque public. All those are reasons to give the church some elbow room but they are not reasons for actually staying.
She might not be keeping the Word of Wisdom, living according to the Law of Chastity, or attending church regularly. The independent work is just as important as the work we do as a couple. I think it was Spencer Kimball who counselled that before marriage you should keep your eyes wide open and then after marriage keep your eyes half shut. He sees all families being able to stay together. Then you complain when the polish of being married to a doctor wears off and you grow callused to the money and big house. She doesn't want to marry you. If I even mention wanting to talk just about normal life things, I am told not to tilt the balance between problems and fun. I also expected that my spouse would be temple worthy and that I would get married in the temple, which was not the case. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable.
He want to wait at least one year before he makes any decision he want to take it slow. I'd suggest the essays. Dating does not necessarily mean an exclusive relationship. His hospital "family" protected this information well, silently acquiescing and even approving his behavior. Top Posts Do Mormons believe people can become gods.
I got married to for love and companionship, not to essentially be lonely with a lot of nice things and raise my children "as if" I were a single parent. Sure I have met alot of douche bag doctors who have no morals, think they are 'it' and you know that they feel free to cheat whenever. That is a hard truth. But it also means he has ultimate responsibility for his patients, both ethically and legally. If you think your girlfriend's resistance to being exposed to anything critical of Mormonism sounds cult-like, you are right. You would be her back up plan in case she can't find a guy who is a returned missionary, preferably from a prominent LDS family. With such high standards of perfection, Mormon girls want a man who validates their efforts and confidently provides directionвa man who expects them to be beautiful. No doubt that some will be valiant up on the other side of the veil, but just as sure there will others who will reject salvation because of their high mindedness. If we can say them together, great; if not. Its interesting to read all the doctor wife's comments and experiences.