Our communication is mostly via texts, but he keeps me in the loop at work, and I do the same. She may have served a mission as an ultimatum to herself. Living in an interfaith, marriage can be hell. And that fairly constant theme has some deep implications your girlfriend will have to face. It's the extra socializing, hanging out with residents, stopping by the hospital to visit his best friend. Mormons are one of the few remaining groups with healthy women. Subreddit Rules Please see above link for full rules. Spending a lifetime single is not something most people would choose to do, but fear of being forever single should never be a deciding factor in entering a marriage, lest serious problems go unaddressed before serious commitments are made. I am just starting to get a little panicky and upset about this the more I think about it. Sometimes I wonder if it's "Better to end it now and cut off the limb and let the stump heal".
Trust your instincts and your spiritual promptings. And their feelings about your marriage are their businessвnot yours. It has nothing to do with their career. Drives me a bit crazy. What my boyfriend and I used to do when we were long distance is write really, crazy long emails to each other almost as long as my blog posts. My two daughters have each chosen a man who is emotionally and physically available, thank goodness. Anyway, we've discussed marriage already. It sucks but ultimately what Mormonism does to people is it makes them value adherence to church more than their relationships with people. She asked me to read that site and write down questions.
Good communication, love, support and understanding are the things you should consider. You I think are ok with that. If she can accept me for who I am and what I believe, knowing that I'll never give her the eternal family she wants, then maybe we'll be ok. I was off travelling the world when I met and fell madly in love with a deployed Marine. The Mormon girl has the light of Christ shining through her, and you were drawn in. Yet, this life is hard on the whole family. Mormonism, like many extreme religions, often stunts the growth of its members.
The woman provides advice and counsel but doesn't preside. Today was my birhtday and my husband spent the whole day at work and all night working on his notes. But I also know that He loves us so much that He would never take away our ability to choose for ourselves. I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains.