Of course, it will cause fights, as well. I don't know how to manage the resentment. I think more than anything, the thing that gets me is this feeling of being marginalized in his life. You never walks you'll never know. I don't think people really understand how lonely it can get, unless you are married to one.
Other lazy Mormon girls turn feminist, many thousands of them. I could never do it. Take the missionary lessons, read the Book of Mormon and the Bible. I was the bishops' daughter who went to BYU but didn't go on a mission because I was already married with a 10 month old by my 21st birthday. They could fill a book, the stories I could tell. Trust me, I too tried to make it work with my very Mormon also returned missionary ex-girlfriend. She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc.
I'll tell her that we are strictly friends for now on. I realize that the answers to many of these questions may be different for every family, and that we need to continue to discuss them more as a couple as we continue to think about our future. Are days like this going to be normal. It seems she'll expect you to become Mormon. We have a happy marriage. Trying to maintain a long-distance relationship with someone at home or attempting to date someone you meet while on mission are both distractions.
I think a lot of what you say here really rings true, especially the part about the Date Night. Sorry, but it just isn't worth it. Do you truly believe in temple marriage as a requirement for Celestial attainment. Don't expect a traditional marriage I am sorry for your story. I appreciate my own space too, but it felt shitty to have this great time with him and not get so much as a text until we are making plans for next time. Take your date to a club with loud music and an open bar, or an R-rated or violent movie, and the prospects of it going well are daunting. But I could make it very romantic indeed. Anyway, you got yourself a treasure. We have family prayer every day and read the scriptures occasionally.