It has just made me realize that these formulas a lot of us Mormons learn growing up about how to have a happy marriage are, well, crap. Unfortunately, it does not get easier, just different. The church will be in your bedroom, finances, and all your decisions. Some Mormons believe the Telestial Kingdom will be littered with spouses who refused to get baptized.
And for mormons, the goal is always a temple marriage and a marriage for the eternities. And even then it will put Huge stress on it and on you for the rest of your life. That was my experience. It has been a couple of months since I have seen him or even really talked to him. But is it the path that will make you the happiest. I'm a nevermo, but I married a then TBM girl, so maybe my perspective will be of help to you. At least people of different races are aware of those differences, and are on alert to deal with them. Thank you for your blog. We visit when he has a rotation that gives him weekends off, and compromise sleep and fun.
In my home ward, the non-member son of one of the members of the Bishopbric was able to stand up with the Priesthood and hold his baby girl while they gave her baby blessing. This girl is also a real person, not a caricature of a cult member, and even if the ultimate result is a breakup, she deserves to be treated with compassion and respect. Ask her out on dates. Go on your different ways as friends and don't expect your relationship to go anywhere.
You've made good points about not bringing up the CES letter or anything that could be called "anti-mormon. Unfortunately I've been sort of seeing a girl who is basically a real deal Mormon. Most couples who are married where one is a Mormon and the other isn't, usually stems from a situation where they both were married in the temple, then one of them lost their faith sometime after that.