That is why there are home teachers, friends, family members, neighborsвto provide priesthood blessings. Almost everything is complicated. My fiance is a surgeon. I'm dating a Mormon girl right now but we both understand that it is most likely isn't going to last long.
It's the sort of super dismissive "all women are the same" attitude that I learned in church and left to get away from. But I don't know that he does the same for me. If you do attend parties like that, expect her to drink 7-Up and volunteer as the designated driver, and to be completely repulsed if you drink too much. And he likes the idea of us raising our daughter with the values the Mormon church instills on their youth. She may never join the join the church. Things have worked out pretty well with us so far. I've been in a similar situation before. She won't marry you. There have been times in the last three years that we have had to live paycheck to paycheck so the idea of a rich doctor is antiquated in most cases.
At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready. All that matters to her is things are how they are because god wants them that way. Early in our relationship, I gave some thought to the question of whether I would ever be willing to marry a non-Mormon. And his wife is angry and unappreciative and has no idea how difficult his profession is.
I loved him for THAT. At 30, you just give up. Trying to maintain a long-distance relationship with someone at home or attempting to date someone you meet while on mission are both distractions. I say, Follow your heart. But the lies sting some people. No doubt that all rightetous persons will accept Christ but not everyone that dies will be righteous. If I catch you in the back seat trying to pick her locks, I'm going to send you back to mother in a card board box. I don't know if it's worse for us: For me, it's been an inner battle with myself, should I follow my husband or should he follow me as I am one year ahead.