She is going on a mission which means she is heavily invested in performing according to the cultural expectations. If you can only think of alcohol and coffee for a good time, you're very disappointed. He needs a house that he can call home and a family that loves him. Do not make anything risque public. I feel for you.
He took out his bad moods on everyone. The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. Before I would just take things as they came, internalize them, be miserable about it but not voice my concern in fear of being told that I can't handle his lifestyle. They want a man who has navigated the stormy seas of the world, who has just a little bit of history, and has overcome the degenerate worldly culture, a man who has discovered for himself where peace and happiness lie.
Hiring someone to read for research does not work for a variety of reasons. I've read some of the articles linked to by mormonessays. Unless you convert she won't marry you, plain and simple. There will be sacrifices but I am hopeful. She doesn't want to marry you. Lonely is an everyday thing. It interrupts meals, sleep, shopping trips, conversations, romantic time, and even fights.
They therefore have a high standard to work toward. However, you might be lucky to not have the experience I did. It is how she is programmed and it is a fundamental tenant of the religion. I could draw some flip-art of a kiss on some post-it notes and send one a day. He is absolutely, hands-down my favorite human being on the planet. I, too, am the wife of a doctor dermatology resident. If it is even possible, would it strengthen or weaken their ability to develop a personal relationship with their Heavenly Father.