She wants the eternal temple marriage and you will be her long term project TL;DR I considered ending my marriage of Save yourself pain by getting out before it gets harder. I was with him before I even started college and the past year was especially tough as I am getting more and more busy. When those are not around or when the circumstances or the spirit indicate otherwise then prayer is more than enough. In fact, when I first met him, I had no idea he was even a full fledged doctor. When DH comes in he is still gone more than half the time.
She might not even be living according to the moral standards of the Church. It was totally eye-opening. Marriage is meant to be eternal. We have a strong relationship, so I am lucky - but lately the demands of family are becoming a bit too much to handle - and I really don't know how to 'deal' with my inlaws and 'sharing' my husband with them. Not one little bit.
Life After Mormonism Chat. Having said that, I believe strongly that it takes a special individual who can remain active in the church and have a non-traditional marriage. He doesn't realize that when he spends so much time at the hospital they take this as a sign that he has no home life. Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. They want a man who has navigated the stormy seas of the world, who has just a little bit of history, and has overcome the degenerate worldly culture, a man who has discovered for himself where peace and happiness lie. Count yourself lucky that your boyfriend is able to even consider going to parties with you even if you don't ultimately make it to them. You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. I know you got a zillion replies, and I have not read them.
We often wonder how we will pay our bills sometimes. To answer your question: Even when he does, everything is on his terms. Due to their religious teachings, Mormons do not smoke, drink alcohol or caffeinated "hot drinks" coffee or tea or do drugs. Now look at the flip side в if he loves you, and realizes you fully believe, how will he deal with the importance of the temple to you.