It made me sad to think that the thing that was most important my life в my faith в was something that I could never fully share with my husband. I married a person, not a religion. He then proceeded to beat the shit out of her for a decade. But marriages don't last if you have to hold back ugly, sarcastic comments when your partner attends religious services or defends religious beliefs. You need to do something interesting and keep her faith up.
In the end, if the guy is the keeper you say he is then go with your gut. Tell her that you want your relationship with her, and her relationship with your children together to be separate from her religion with her god. The point is that there are way too many people talking in this thread as if they have some sort of psychic knowledge a stone in a hat, perhaps. I even had three kids in with me during a impromptu vaginal examination when I was preggo with my fourth. We are only engaged and as much as I love him, I can't handle the pain of watching my goals and dreams wash away to be at his disposal. He came to bed at 1: I don't know if I can make this work. Also, I know a bunch of Mormons that say they are, but don't act like it. If I'm focused on something like reading a textbook, or working on some problem then I might still think of him vaguely but I'm not going to whip out my phone or go and see himI'm busy. I do wonder if you ask this blog just to get supporting advice.
We love each other and have known each other for years. Ultimately, it comes down to this. His job prevents you much access to him. I stopped working after our 2nd child because his hours were so irregular and there was no predictability to his schedule. Everyone seems to be supporting the idea that he is just too busy, but the truth is we over the internet can't judge his intent.
Finding a person with whom your wavelength matches, and around whom you feel you can just be yourself, talk about anything, and not be worried about being judged, is not as easy as the romantic movies and TV soaps make it out to be. There are many great and wonderful people in the church, and the real evil about the church is that it harms those great and wonderful people. But wait a minute.