They know that they are the best. The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming. It was actually causing more of a rift than bringing us together. I'm a nevermo, but I married a then TBM girl, so maybe my perspective will be of help to you. Seek advice, and like the chick said, talk and talk and talk untill its all sorted out in your mind, and in his. I have felt alone many a days when raising our 2 children while he was at work or out of town for conferences. I don't think it's going overboard, though, to state one very possible and very likely scenario, and that is that this girl may likely be completely indoctrinated and believing.
And when he's working, you should be able to connect somehow. I'm on mobile and it isn't letting me post the URL. But marriages don't last if you have to hold back ugly, sarcastic comments when your partner attends religious services or defends religious beliefs.
Best wishes to those struggling with these big, life-altering decisions. There are a great many beliefs I can't condone but most of them are along the lines of gender stereotyping, and how you apply that to your own life obviously varies by individual. I just returned from a difficult meeting with my psychotherapist and felt depressed-then I found this amazing blog. I wish you the best. I would find it therapeutic to type out all of my feelings and at the same time he would get an update. These are nice people. Almost everything is complicated.
I chose to get married and move across the state to live with my husband and left my job, family and friends and let me tell you, it's been tremendously difficult to meet new friends in the new town. Whereas white and black may both sleep in on Sunday and tie their left shoes first, Mos have a set of behavioral norms that are in serious conflict with Nomo lifestyles. Eternity is a long time. I knew a Mormon girl who got rides from her Mormon friends for casual sex dates with men she met on Tinder. Hopefully they have some say in it, but I'm speaking about other churchgoers' expectations here, and probably your wife's. In the endвthe very endвGod loves my husband even more than I love him. And there's a story I'm going to look again for too.