If you end up marrying a true believing Mormon, your marriage will be a threesome. He can't just put his shoes on and go. And by joining I mean become just as fanatic in it as she is All her life she's been taught that she needs to be married in a Mormon temple Wife left when I came out If her family are all Traditional Believing Mormons, they will try to convert you. Then the girl decided still not to date him after all.
What about the folks at church. They were taught that bold sincerity of purpose and a charitable attitude is what makes a man. I think it might be worth trying. It's not impossible, just painful and unlikely. It's simply sometimes hard to accept that while he is your number one priority, you probably never will be.
I wish I could find a support group in South Africa. I have been married with a doc for 4 years, we have been moving every year due to his fellowship, residency and so on, i have been losing job opportinities and living with no families,friends around due to his career. Mormons think when you die, based on if you were a good person cough cough atheists you go to spirit "paradise" where they will teach you the gospel. Whenever you bring something up, they'll say if it's not on lds. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you. If I were to signal him everytime I thought about him, I'd be on the phone with him almost all of my waking hours. Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages. Having said that I'm not looking to get married any time soon, so no. With minimal support on my side and going against everything I had grown up learning, I had to trust my relationship with God.
Most likely, the relationship isn't going to survive your differences in belief. You are atheist and that's not changing. She may have served a mission as an ultimatum to herself. I have had more than one girl, who I had definite chemsitry with, who the girl really liked me and we had deep and intense conversations as well as a real physichal connection to. I'm a Mormon girl in love with an amazing non-Mormon man. I'm a Mormon girl in love with an amazing non-Mormon man. I think it might be worth trying.