Read our Exit Stories from Mormonism. It's like a catch or something. Yes, those of us in the hospital work longer and harder days than most people with 9 to 5s, but we still have off days. The first key question to as is: If the answer is yes then the relationship sounds like it's doomed. If so, you have a chance. And don't fall for all their talk of being open and welcoming.
I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you. You aren't engaged or married or anything, you can't just know that she won't see the light and remain crazy Mormon forever. He is truly my soulmate and I shudder to think that if I had not chosen to marry outside of the church, I would not have had this life with him. My family is pretty awesome in the church. I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains.
Being a doctor means you sacrifice for others, and your family and spouse sacrifices while standing in the shadows of your career. She might be everything you want, but in her eyes you are not what she has been dreaming of her whole life. Try a variety of dates. He will have to be okay with being thought not good enough to help in circumstances in which you believe that priesthood power is needed. I've been doing it wrong. I think there's a chance you two can find a way to agree on a lifestyle and values. You have to make the decision as to what you want your home and your children to have in that home. They can't seem to deal with it, and shouldn't have to. Accept yourself, and feel God accepting you, and everything else will follow.
She likely hasn't had many long-term relationships and has no idea what dynamics are involved in one. Whenever you bring something up, they'll say if it's not on lds. She sounds so indoctrinated that like even if you try to get her to open up, who knows you might get like a BJ out of it doesn't sound like it but who knowsyou have to realize that a lifetime of conditioning will be set in motion in her mind that will make your life hell. I need suggestions to handld the neurotic behavior, ocd, and opinions. On top of his work schedule, there are other demands on his time like his family and friends. Life After Mormonism Chat. Now the Pew survey only took into account self-identification, i. None felt right, ever.